You know, being pregnant is wonderful, but it is also a moment of certain anxiety. Will I be a good mom? Will I be a good mom to the second child? How will I manage to love both of them as much as I love this one? Will I have enough time to handle it all? Will the current baby be OK with the arrival of a new baby? So to all that, people shouldn't add extra crappy anxiety.
When I was pregnant with Ignacio I would get things like:
"Will you get rid of the cats?"
"The cats will attack/be jealous/suffocate the baby!"
Another good one was the "Sleep now, because you will never ever sleep again." Which is really not nice to hear when you are already having a hard time sleeping through the night because your pregnant belly is making you go pee every two hours or the baby wakes you up to his tap dancing.
Now that I have already a baby and I am expecting a second one I get a whole new set of things said. I know people feel the need of saying something to you when you are expecting, but come on! a "Hey, how are you feeling?" would be nice! Instead I have gotten comment like:
"So, you know you will have a favourite, the first one is always special, you know that right? You never love the others as the first one. My first has always been my favourite."
Really? Seriously, really? I find that after Ignacio arrived I still had enough love for my husband, my family, and my cats! Why would I not love my second child as much as I love the first one?
"Oh, is he jealous yet?" in front of my baby boy. Or worse "Hey, you know you will not have your mom and dad for yourself anymore? you will have to share!". Why would you generate that anxiety to a one year old? Is it not enough that he is going to go through a big change that you have to add an extra fear, when he barely understands what "share" or "sibling" is?
And my favourite of them all, told by well intentioned people that love my boy.
"This one is so good... but don't expect the next one to be, siblings are usually completely different, opposites. So the next one might be a really bad one"
Gee, thanks! That will help me to sleep at night!
Have you gotten stupid comments like those before?